What are your homeschooling goals? Before you answer, there's a common trap that many homeschool parents fall into which mean they set themselves up to fail.
You're going to put yourself under enormous pressure if you are choosing to prove how wonderful your teaching is because your child is miles ahead of everyone else.
My free Courageous Homeschooling e-course is all about learning the techniques to help you succeed.
And we need to start by looking at your homeschooling goals.
Because the only way you can be a failure is if you set yourself up to fail.
One of the biggest homeschooling mistakes is to assume that your kids will do really well academically.
If you look at the effectiveness of homeschooling, there's no doubt that you can achieve the highest academic standards through teaching your child at home.
And with my son having been accepted by Oxford University I think I've proved that!
But if that is your aim, the
fears will really begin to bite when your child can't read and they're
eight and a half (ummm...that's my daughter Catherine.)
N.B. This is Lesson 16 of my 21 lesson free Courageous Homeschooling e-course which teaches the techniques to make homeschooling work for all of you.
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I know it's hard. You've started homeschooling and everyone's looking at you.
So, if your child is behind with something, you MUST be a failure.
And what's extra tough for you is that it's often not your own expectations you're dealing with.
It's the world.
My e-course is all about learning the techniques to overcome your fears.
And we need to start with your homeschooling goals because if you get that wrong the fears and self-doubts can be overwhelming.
What's so difficult to contemplate that you can't do it without dashing to the bathroom to throw up?
How about these two short sentences:
I'm a failure. The kids will have to go back to school.
To learn how to handle those fears, we need to learn how to handle expectations.
Before you get stuck into a trap, I think we need to work out what your real homeschooling goals and expectations are.
Because I have no doubt that you can fulfill them.
And when it boils down to it, you would probably agree with me that your main aim is:
To help your children find out what makes them happy, creative and fulfilled.
No sign of academics there!
So I can save you a trip to the bathroom.
You can't fail
because your child will succeed. You will help them find out what
they want out of life – and you will do so far better than if they had
been at school.
You can only fail if you decide to. So you need to:
Start thinking what your homeschooling goals are.
Write down your homeschooling goals.
"It's just a suggestion but I sometimes found that I set my homeschooling goals way too high and sometimes I couldn't think of many at all.
Nowadays I start by asking my son and we talk it through and set them together."
~ Sam
I don't know what you put.
Indeed, when I started I can't say I consciously wrote down any goals.
Which means I would get a severe ear-bashing from someone I know who would say:
Commit!
Print the page.
Do it now and SIGN IT.
Put it someplace you can see it every single second of every ding dang day.
But I suggest that if you agree with me on your main aim, that's what you write in letters four feet tall.
Because what we've learned so far is all about taking control.
And
the exciting thing is that I am certain you can reach your main goal
and make your homeschool as fulfilling as you dreamed it could be!
Look at what Susan Jeffers says:
So when you write down your homeschooling goals, remember to include yourself!
Best wishes
Sonya
P.S. In the next Courageous Homeschooling lesson we will learn how to deal with one of the commonest homeschooling nightmares: MISTAKES.
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